I know what you mean...mine is gonna be slow too. I still have to build a new engine. That's gonna be the killer
. Have you looked at Bilstein? They're pretty nice and a bit cheaper than koni's. Ji's TRD's on AGX is pretty smooth. Depending on how important ride quality is to you I'd just spend the little extra for nicer shocks and struts.
I like the five spoke look. They're a lot of sweet ones out there. You could check out Ji's...